Lasting relationships

Today, I came across this post: Science Says Lasting Relationships Come Down To 2 Basic Traits

And it's basically it: kindness and generosity are the 2 basic traits that will make you relationship last. But it cannot come only from one side, it needs to be a balance between you 2. When I look back and think about my 6 year relationship with Ed, I should have known that the fact that he is genuinely a selfish person was a recipe for disaster - in bed and in our daily life. I am a giver and he is a taker. It was what is was. I am extremely happy I packed and left him almost 3 years ago.

So, over all it's as simple as that: 

(...) People who give their partner the cold shoulder — deliberately ignoring the partner or responding minimally — damage the relationship by making their partner feel worthless and invisible, as if they’re not there, not valued. And people who treat their partners with contempt and criticize them not only kill the love in the relationship, but they also kill their partner's ability to fight off viruses and cancers. Being mean is the death knell of relationships.
Kindness, on the other hand, glues couples together. Research independent from theirs has shown that kindness (along with emotional stability) is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage. Kindness makes each partner feel cared for, understood, and validated—feel loved. “My bounty is as boundless as the sea,” says Shakespeare’s Juliet. “My love as deep; the more I give to thee, / The more I have, for both are infinite.” That’s how kindness works too: there’s a great deal of evidence showing the more someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship."

Advice: Try to learn from others mistakes. Apologize. There is no need to selfish and stubborn, cause after all that person only wants to love you and be love by you.

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